Powerful Stories From The Atlantic Journal

Anyone concerned with children, child protection, and the arguments for or against aggressive state policies should take the time to read this two part series in the Atlantic Journal Magazine this month.

This article from KARA’s blog was posted in 2014 and is very relevant today.

What follows are key pieces that I find a very compelling case for us to tell our child abuse and child protection stories (over and over) and work to improve the programs, people, and institutions that impact at risk children.  My comments are in italics in the read more below.

Key Quotes “from the Journal;”

Both my parents were physically abusive, and my father was sexually abusive as well (I later found out he also sexually abused my older half-sister, who moved away when I was two). The first time I made an outcry to an adult about my abuse, I was 4. CPS was called, they made a visit, nothing happened. Over the next several years, CPS was called several more times: a doctor who noted that a pelvic infection in an 8-year-old was not right; a teacher who observed bruises and erratic behavior. When I was 14, I called them myself because my father choked me until I passed out and I was frightened he would kill me. Sometimes they sent someone to look into it, sometimes not. I only found out about the other calls when I got to look at my file later on. Between ages 4 and 15, there were a total of 5 calls made to CPS on my behalf. Nothing was ever done. That’s 10 years of my life.  I have fifty stories just like this as a volunteer CASA guardian ad-Litem – violence and or sexual abuse happened to almost every child in my caseload.

Do you know what 10 years looks like to a child who doesn’t know when or why she will be beaten next, just that it will likely be soon? To a child who, night after night, dreads her bedroom door opening? I could have, maybe (foster care is no picnic either) been safe all that time, if there really was the problem of over-aggressive CPS response that you describe. You know how I got out? A teacher helped me run away to a youth shelter. I had a great deal more support than the average child in foster care. Eventually, the state terminated my parent’s custodial rights. And here I am, alive, so many years later, with a family of my own. Grateful. Was everyone I encountered in CPS awesome? No. But as a whole, they saved my life.  Very few of the children I worked with went on to lead happy lives.

It would be one thing if that was just one example. But almost everyone I knew in foster care who suffered real, unrelenting abuse, described how difficult, not how easy, it was to get CPS to do something. And maybe I grew up in a rough place (Is Maine a rough place?) but more than half of the people I know who never went to foster care also suffered real, unrelenting abuse, but never got out until they became an adult. That’s the one thing you are missing in your graph. How many children are abused, (six million children are reported as abused each year in America – About ten percent of them receive services) but for various reasons (oh, that nice family wouldn’t do that, everyone else is doing it), never get reported? Never show up on the radar? Never even get a CPS visit?(four counties in MN screen out 90 percent of all abuse calls)

An Every Child Matters Education Fund report on national child abuse and neglect deaths in the U.S. estimates that approximately 50 percent of child deaths reported as “unintentional injury deaths” are reclassified after further investigation by medical and forensic experts as deaths due to maltreatment. That’s a heck of a lot more kids getting hurt and dying than is included in the data in your article. (So what about the kids I knew in foster care who were taken away under little to no pretext? All Native American. What is the predominant difference between kids who are taken away for very little reason and kids who are ignored, like myself? The former are often African-American, Native American or other minorities. The latter are most frequently white with charming or manipulative abusers.

The reason I am writing this email is because I feel that the impression you are giving is that the problem is that CPS is checking on too many children, when the problem is clearly institutional racism with a side order of classism. If you address those issues, the children unnecessarily removed would plummet. To raise the bar for CPS to act to protect children would only cause the number of fatalities among victims to rise. Furthermore, the tone in your article seems to empower those who would seek to discredit CPS altogether. What child protective agencies need is more funding and better, more-educated staff, not less.”

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change will come a little bit faster.

Small efforts = real results.

When enough of us become informed and

speak up for abused and neglected children,

we will improve their lives and our communities!

You might blame me for not printing the counter argument to this perspective that was printed in the same magazine.

I am unable to do so, because after 12 years as a volunteer CASA guardian ad-Litem, I have never seen a case in the Hennepin County system (where I have worked) that was not over the top abuse, generally years of abuse, most of the time the kind of abuse that made my skin crawl (prostituted seven year old, suicidal four year old, sexually molested two year old, and much much more).

*My whole being screams for more funding, fewer cases per worker, better training, and more resources for the children and people working with them.  Those working to discredit the people doing the work have got it all wrong.  Abused and neglected children need more, not less from we the people, we the community.  *

*Working with abused and neglected children and dysfunctional families is complex and grueling and needs more not less understanding and support. Blaming social workers when a baby is found in a dumpster is not so different for blaming teachers for failed schools. *Troubled students not only don’t learn, they disrupt and make teaching the rest of the class much more difficult.

This is not so different from blaming law enforcement for the boy in the squad car (admit it, that would be ridiculous – but the analogy works in both prior examples).

Support teachers, support social workers, support justice workers.  It is very hard work inside of institutions with governance that continues to be driven by a bad data and a lack of transparency within the institution of Child Protection.(and that my friends, is our fault).

As someone that understands the value of productive citizens and the terrific cost dysfunctional people have on my community, I am appalled at the current drive to diminish resources for at risk children and the  people working to help them. The Entire CASA National budget managing volunteers has been eliminated along with slashing of many other valuable organizations across the country doing good work keeping at-risk children safe.

There will never be enough prisons or safe places for us to avoid the crime and violence that untreated traumatized children bring with them as they grow into adulthood.  For those who use political or religious arguments against government intervention as a safety net for these children, shame on you.

There is not a religion on the planet that abandons the weakest and most vulnerable among us.

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